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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.comBlogger204125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-15515045645335967972016-03-13T16:03:00.000-04:002016-03-13T16:20:29.778-04:00"Potty Mouth" Politics<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>That said, I am absolutely appalled at the current atmosphere of hateful speech, childish name-calling, and crude remarks by the politicians seeking the nomination for President of our country. The worst offender, obviously, is Donald Trump. He has been a bully since he first announced his candidacy. Others have followed suit, even though they don't seem as comfortable doing so. I believe they may just be lowering themselves to his level in the hopes of competing with him for primary votes. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i><b>Our children are watching!!</b> My grandchildren are actually vehemently speaking out against Trump. How bad must the situation be, when 5, 7, and 8-year olds seem to have more maturity than these men up on the podium??</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>We are not having debates -- we are having name-calling sessions, dissing each others' personal appearances, rather than discussing the terribly critical issues that face our country. There are serious problems in our country and in our world, and we should all be able to listen to these men and women as they carry on an adult conversation about these issues and propose solutions which are serious possibilities -- not just five-second sound bites.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>I will not get into the politics of the situation, because I try to avoid politics on my blog. My concern in writing about this primary season is twofold. Most importantly, I believe we as citizens deserve better. Before I vote for someone I want to know where he or she really stands on issues. Secondly, as a grandmother, I would like all of our children to be able to listen to real substance and learn good citizenship from men and women who deserve our respect. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>We cannot, on one hand, preach to our children about bullying and non-violent methods of handling situations, and on the other hand condone them hearing nothing but the "potty mouth" ramblings of these people who could possibly be running our government next year. Lord help us!!</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>On a nearby street, there is a little brick house with a red picket fence in the front yard which surrounds the most beautiful little garden patch. This garden was the showpiece of the neighborhood, tended by a gardener who put hours of work each year into her little patch of heaven. There are gardeners like myself, who are haphazard in their planning, planting, and tending, and then there are gardeners like Linda who dream and plan and work every day on their knees in their gardens, and these gardens are the ones that thrive and show that they are loved.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>I drove past Linda's house countless times through the years, and enjoyed the sight of her tending her lovely flowers. Each season there were new flowers to savor, but my personal favorites were the tall, colorful dahlias that bloomed in late summer and early autumn. I didn't know Linda very well; we had casual contact through the years as we raised our children and lived our lives within the same village. One summer, as I thrilled at the beauty of her dahlias, I sent her a note telling her how much pleasure her garden brought me each time I drove past, year in and year out. Towards the end of that season, Linda rang my doorbell and handed me a huge bouquet of her dahlias; what a special gift that was. I will never forget the joy of receiving that gorgeous bouquet. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Not too long ago, I heard the sad news that Linda was suffering from a progressive lung disease; that summer she kneeled in her garden, working along, her breathing aided by oxygen. The next year, I saw a group of people helping prepare the garden for the season. Often, Linda's husband was at her side as she worked. Slowly, it seemed as if the garden was shrinking. Though still beautiful, there was less abundance. This past summer, I noticed her husband out weeding and tending without Linda, and fewer flowers were blooming.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Both Linda and her husband died this winter, within weeks of each other. Too soon and too young!! As I drive past the pretty little brick house now, it looks so lonely and the winter garden so abandoned. And I wonder who will move into the house, and will they love the little garden as Linda did? Will they spend time tending it lovingly? Or will they plow it all under and plant grass seed. Will the dahlias bloom again this summer? </i></span><br />
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<i>My heart is heavy as we count down the last three days to Christmas. This year has been a year of losses for my family and friends. Death has seemed to touch the lives of so many. As families gather around the table and in the church pews this Christmas, there will be many beloved faces missing. The celebrations and traditions will be the same, but they will be accompanied by grief. </i></div>
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<i>My cozy house is filled with beloved decorations. Our little town is beautiful, with its abundance of greenery, lights, and candles in windows. Regardless of the sadness that has faced so many of us this year, Christmas goes on. We carry on our traditions with our missing loved ones in mind and heart, but we still hold true to the traditions.</i></div>
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<i>And so, even as I mourn the losses this year, and long for snowflakes drifting down and blanketing the earth, I look forward to that sacred moment on Christmas Eve, when the church is darkened, and slowly filled with candlelight, as we pass the light from one to another down each row, until everyone holds a lit candle, and voices young and old sing my favorite carol, "Silent Night," as we celebrate the birth of our Saviour. </i></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-58946157635435215802015-10-25T09:57:00.000-04:002015-10-25T09:57:50.392-04:00Grandparenting in a New Era<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<i>I remember vividly the comfort of my grandmother's lap. She and my grandfather lived with us when I was growing up, and I basked in the warmth and security of their love. It wasn't uncommon in those days for extended family to live together, although it was becoming less the norm than it had been a generation before. By the time I was grown and raising children of my own, most of us set our course differently, buying houses of our own when we were young, and taking pride in our independence. Our children's experiences with their grandparents depended on the amount of time and energy the grandparents were able to expend, as well as the physical distance involved, as families became more mobile and scattered. It was not common for grandparents to share in the daily care of our children. </i><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>That dream vanished, though, as the pace of life in our country, the increased cost of living, and the desire of women to chart a different course, meant that my grandchildren would need some type of child care during the day. For the past eight years, I have provided that care for my three grandchildren. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>As I have walked this path, I have noticed that more and more grandparents are now walking this same path with me. It seems each time I visit the grocery store, I see a grandma or grandpa shopping with preschoolers happily "helping." Each year it seems there are more grandparents dropping off and picking up their precious ones at preschool, holding little hands on field trips, and attending the special parties and programs. I see grandparents at the elementary school, signing out their older grandchildren at the end of the day. One grandmother I know drives an hour each way a couple of times a week to provide care on the days her daughter works. Often both grandmothers share in the care of their grandchildren -- alternating days and schedules to suit the needs of all. Many of these grandparents are retired -- they could be travelling, spending time with friends, playing golf, instead of rocking babies, washing hands and faces, and entertaining active children. Many of them are still working themselves, and make huge efforts to arrange their own working schedule so that they can be available to fill in on the days when they are needed. One 82-year old great-grandmother remains "on-call" to care for her granddaughter. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>What we are doing is a gift of love to both our grandchildren and our children. We lighten the burdens of our children when they know that we will be there to keep things running smoothly each day, to provide loving care to their precious children, and to help them avoid the significant cost of child care. Most importantly, we are providing our grandchildren with consistent love and security in today's world, which is fast-paced and often confusing to children. We answer their questions, listen intently to their joys and worries, and provide that "comforting lap" that my own grandmother provided for me. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><i>To cite an example, one day a week, I wait with one of my granddaughter's preschool classmates as his grandmother rushes from her job to pick him up. I hold his hand, and my little Emma chatters away to him, and he stands there quietly. As soon as his grandma comes into view, I feel the tenseness vanish from his hand, and his face relaxes -- when she reaches out for him, he suddenly starts chattering away to her. She is there; he is secure; he is loved. What greater gift could we grandparents possibly provide. </i></span></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: inherit;">We all carry our childhoods with us in one form or another, either as baggage that weighs us down or as wings that encourage us to expect happiness and success in our lives. My family was fairly poor when I was young. That wasn't uncommon in the rural community in which we lived; however, we didn't own our home, so I vividly remember the fear of being evicted from our little house each time our lease was up. Would our landlady decide to sell the house, or would we be safely at home for another year? How I loved that little house; I was happy there, with its cozy rooms and large yard, surrounded by fields. I did envy my friends who lived in houses their parents owned; they never knew the uncertainty of whether they would stay or go, as I did. And then, as I entered my teens, we were forced to leave. My parents were able to buy a house then, but I was very unhappy there, uprooted from the home I loved and distanced from my best friend.</span></i><br />
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<i><span style="font-family: inherit;">September is a beautiful month of transition from the heat and humidity of summer to the cool, crisp weather in October. Fields of purple loosestrife and goldenrod seem to arrive overnight, gracing the landscape with their vibrant colors. </span></i><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">The book I am reading is fictional, but the story revolves around one woman's experiences as the wife of a member of the German Resistance during WWII. I find myself drawn into the decisions made by so many Germans during the reign of the Nazis, and especially this elderly woman, who married the love of her life, only to lose him before their life together really began. </span></em><br />
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<em>When I am upset and feeling sorry for myself, I often blame fate for my predicaments. However, as I read this book, I am more and more aware that it is most often our own decisions which lead us down one path or another -- and determine the eventual outcome of our lives.</em><br />
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<em>Looking back, I realize that I made numerous decisions which, while well-intentioned, were obviously not the best. In hindsight, there are several life choices that I should have considered more carefully than I did. Sometimes, one wrong choice can impact the path our life takes in such a way that it is virtually impossible to change the forces that have been set in motion. We must move forward on the path we have chosen and make the best of things as they are.</em><br />
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<em>Blaming fate is easy, yet taking responsibility for our own choices is difficult and sometimes heartbreaking. We do the best we can, but we must live with our decisions, and hope that our poor decisions do not create a ripple effect for our children and grandchildren. Life is not always fair; fate does throws us curves, but, ultimately, we make decisions and choices, and we must live with the consequences. Sometimes those consequences break our hearts and break our spirits, but, it is all "water under the bridge." We must move on and find happiness in the small things in our lives. We cannot change the past, we can only do our best to appreciate whatever good has resulted from the choices we made.</em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-49488464930616246872015-07-04T14:07:00.001-04:002015-07-04T14:07:42.667-04:00The Photograph<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em>Recently, as I was reorganizing my storeroom, I moved a box, and this black and white photo fell onto the floor. The photo was taken in Stockbridge almost fifteen years ago. I was reminded of the wonderful days I shared with my mother and my sister in this lovely little town. Since I was in the middle of quite a time-consuming project, I put the photograph aside to save. By the end of the day, though, in all the confusion, I had misplaced the photo. How bereft I felt. I had so much wanted to study the photo and remember details of those days.</em><br />
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<em>The calendar page turned to July last week. July holds the terrible memory of my sister's slow and painful death six years ago, and as I began to once again relive those saddest of times, I remembered the photo that I had lost. How I wished I could remember where I had put it; fear also lingered that maybe it had inadvertently found its way to the trash. Yesterday, I walked into the storeroom, and saw a photo lying on the floor, face down. It hadn't been there before, and as I turned it over, it was my beautiful Stockbridge photo. As you can see, it is merely a fading black and white photograph of a little shop which was tucked into the back of an alley near the Red Lion Inn. But what lovely memories it evokes for me.</em><br />
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<em>I actually loved this tiny gift shop. There were exquisite vintage clothes and jewelry, all sorts of trinkets and lacy Victorian treats -- a shop that spoke to my heart, even though I couldn't afford many of its beautiful wares. There was so much I loved about Stockbridge -- the perennial flowers that were scattered about for all to enjoy, the peaceful shrine set apart from the bustle of the tourist town, the little shops sheltered in the historic old buildings. And how I loved the Red Lion Inn. It was a favorite of both my mother and sister. My mother and I often celebrated her birthday with lunch at the Inn. My sister and I sometimes drove over early and enjoyed breakfast, sitting at the linen-covered table and savoring the slower pace of the breakfast crowd. We wandered the halls of the Inn, and visited the gift shop. </em><br />
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<em>On our many day trips, we would often drive down to Great Barrington, enjoying the antique shops along the way, and stopping at a nursery to browse among whatever plants were in season. I vividly remember one Saturday when an unexpected storm arrived as we started back from Great Barrington to Rt. I-90. At one point, the road was closed due to a downed tree, and we had to take an alternate route. One side of the road was thickly treed, with high winds blowing treacherously, and the other side of the road was bordered by the Housatonic River, which was rising at a terrifying pace as we drove along. I could barely unclench my hands from the steering wheel when we finally arrived safely on the highway to home.</em><br />
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<em>Many of the memories are blurred by time now, with my mother and sister both long dead. I treasure those special days, when we strolled through town, chattering and laughing, lingered over breakfast or lunch in deep conversation, thoroughly enjoying each other's company, never realizing how little time we really had left together. I have not been back to Stockbridge since my sister died. Each year I think, "maybe this year," but somehow I cannot imagine walking those streets with someone else.</em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-35963410075408918712015-05-17T15:46:00.000-04:002015-05-17T15:46:49.249-04:00Finding Inner Peace Midst the Chaos<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">There are times in life when weeks slide past us in a blur. These can be periods of joy and happiness or of stress and worry. April and early May have been chaotic for me. There has barely been time to ponder one moment before another hurried into the forefront. Finally, this morning, I had some time to myself, and, of course, I headed to the garden to slow down and gather my thoughts a bit.</span></em><br />
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<em>There is a natural rhythm to the seasons and in the garden. Sometimes when life is filled with craziness it is important to revisit nature -- to recapture this rhythm which has gone asunder in our own lives. </em><br />
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<em>As I look back over the past two months, it is difficult to remember all of the events which have kept me so busy. April began with Easter Sunday brunch, then an overnight hospitalization for my husband, which resulted in doctor visits and tests, followed quickly by a week-long sleepover for my granddaughter while her parents were away. May has brought a baby shower, bridal shower, class reunion, and the funeral of an old friend. Of course, all of the normal daily routines continued, as well as garden clean-up in any spare time. While many of these events were joyful, there have been underlying worries and stresses in my family and those of several of my friends. Stress has been my constant companion.</em><br />
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<em>So, I welcomed this quiet morning. I gathered together my gardening tools and my camera, and set to work -- mindless work, which allows your thoughts to clear as you feel the sunshine on your shoulders, the breeze ruffling the leaves, hear the trickle of the water in the pond, and the birds singing and cavorting in the bird bath. How lovely to see my Bridal Wreath bush, now well over forty-five years old, blooming faithfully again.</em><br />
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<em>I pulled weeds and pruned away a multitude of tiny little maple trees that have taken root. If I let these little maples grow, in no time my yard would be one large maple forest. Working in the garden is often hot, sweaty and tiring work, and by late morning, I was ready for a shower. I took some photos with my always-ready camera, and felt the inner peace that comes with hard work in the beautiful lushness of a garden. Obviously, the worries and stresses that have plagued me these past few weeks have not miraculously resolved, but this quiet morning, working in the lovely surroundings of nature has soothed my soul a bit. My heart feels quiet and at ease.</em></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-37682421497483959692015-03-29T11:31:00.000-04:002015-03-29T11:31:03.904-04:00Why is STEM more important than the Arts?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">The constant promotion of STEM education - science, technology, engineering, mathematics -- troubles me. I realize our world today, as well as our economies, rely on technology to a frightening degree (but that is a story to be pondered at another time). I understand that to be competitive in this global economy, we must encourage strong curriculums in the technological sciences, beginning in elementary school. We strive to empower girls to enter these courses of study at a much higher rate than in the past. I also understand this, because for generations many girls were not encouraged to choose a scientific track. We will need highly intelligent, competent STEM graduates as our technological world spins at a faster and faster pace.</span></em><br />
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<em>However, my worry is that in placing so much emphasis on this area of education, we risk providing a well-rounded education to all of our children. We must be certain that with cuts in school aid and budget constraints, we do not put all of our efforts into STEM education. I have noticed in the past few years, as taxpayers cringe over budget increases, the first program cuts that are discussed are arts and music, and this is not wise. In a world as complicated as ours has become, we need to be sure our children are raised to be competent readers, those who can think and problem-solve, those with imagination; we don't want them to be little robots who can interact with computers, but not other people. </em><br />
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<em>We also need craftsmen, construction workers, teachers, writers, philosophers, artists, and musicians who bring life to our innermost feelings and joy to our souls. In a technological world, we will need good leaders to make the best decisions for our nations -- those with a knowledge of history, the ability to "see the big picture" and analyze situations, and to work well with others. These people need humanities and arts education.</em><br />
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<em>We are each born with particular aptitudes and gifts. Mine did not include math and science. I excelled in basic arithmetic, but hit a wall with algebra. And not only am I totally incompetent in science and technology, I have absolutely no interest in them. When a conversation turns technical, I simply "zone out." But, I am intelligent and competent-- a reader, thinker, writer, and was a highly qualified secretary at one time. </em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-81781277374980805972015-03-23T13:51:00.000-04:002015-03-23T13:51:54.438-04:00This Old House vs House Hunters<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">It has always amazed me how one small incident in life can trigger a multitude of reminiscences. Our recent decision to begin cleaning our attic of its forty-some years' accumulation somehow brought me to the revelation of the vast changes in circumstances and expectations between our generation and the generations that have come after ours.</span></em><br />
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<em>As I watch "House Hunters" and several other real estate-oriented programs on HGTV, I notice that most of the younger people looking for homes want houses that are in pristine condition. They have neither the time nor inclination to buy "fixer-uppers"; the kitchens must be large and updated, and the master bedroom must have its own bath. I think back over the years we have spent in our house. When we first bought it in 1972, it was painted a faded yellow cream color, which was very common in the '50s, but it definitely needed a fresh coat of paint. The inside of the house also needed much work. The kitchen consisted of a wall hung sink, stove, and refrigerator, with a shelved pantry -- no counters, no cabinets -- just the very basics. The bathrooms were sparse on luxury, and small. The walls in every room were covered in faded, flowered wallpapers, and the tall, sunny windows allowed the brutal winter winds to enter through every crevice.</em><br />
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<em>However, I fell in love with the charm of the house. I pictured rocking babies in the upstairs bedrooms, family dinners in the dining room, and kneading bread dough on the old metal table in the kitchen. All it would take was a little work. What I didn't realize in my naivete was the money, the time, and the sheer physical effort it would require to restore this house, room by room, while living here, raising those babies, and earning a living at the same time. And then, as we slowly, slowly made our dream come true, we found that by the time we had accomplished many of our projects, the rooms we had completed were once again in need of fresh paint or new plumbing fixtures. The kitchen which was so modern and lovely to us in the early 1980's, is now seriously in need of a new floor, new cabinets and new countertop -- it is over 30 years old. </em><br />
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<em>I was very fortunate, however, that for the most part I was able to be a stay-at-home mom, forced to earn only part-time income here and there through the years, giving me plenty of time to strip wallpaper, paint, sew curtains, and frequent estate sales to furnish my precious house. My husband was in the construction field, and capable of doing the heavy, complicated projects himself. I am very thankful we had the opportunity to pursue this dream of ours.</em><br />
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<em>Today it is a different world. Most mothers must work full-time, and both parents are so busy just keeping up with the day-to-day routine of preparing meals, caring for children, keeping up with laundry, and cleaning, that they do not have the time that was available to us. Their houses must be convenient, tasteful, and as low-maintenance as possible. </em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-3002813408871557462015-03-08T11:42:00.000-04:002015-03-08T11:42:21.450-04:00Cursing Daylight Savings Time<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em>The view from my porch this week is still one of winter, and I am really missing that hour we lost last night, because I had to be up early this morning, inadvertently waking my granddaughter and her puppy who were sleeping over. There were no peaceful few moments to sip coffee and prepare for the day.</em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-7752918421526346062015-02-15T14:59:00.000-05:002015-02-15T14:59:33.291-05:00Snow, Snow, Go Away....<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">I am snuggled in my cozy chair, wrapped in a soft afghan, with a sleeping dog on my lap, and I am thinking, "I should be doing something!" There is cleaning to be done, laundry waiting, bills that need paying, and yet, I sit here. This long, cold winter has finally defeated me. While I love snow, enough is enough, and today there is a brutally cold wind that catches my breath whenever I try to walk outside. I feel like my energy has deserted me, and yet, I feel guilt that I am sitting here when there is so much I could be doing.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">Cold temperatures and snow are forecast for this February Sunday; I slept in a bit longer than usual, and now sit contentedly in my cozy old robe and sip hot coffee. I have no commitments today -- a day of leisure to fill with pleasures of my choosing. Although I have always loved winter, I find that as I age, by February I am becoming tired of the extra efforts required to stay warm and safe -- the boots, hats, gloves, careful steps on snowy surfaces, and the fear of falling which keeps me from my much-loved walks in the darkness as snow falls all around me. Already, in the very first storm of the season (on my 64th birthday, no less), I fell as I walked down the driveway to take a photo of the sheer beauty of my snow-covered old house with its tiny white Christmas candles sprinkling their light into the snowy darkness. Since then, I have been plagued with knee and back pains from time to time.</span></em><br />
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<em>Aging is serious business. We must take care of ourselves -- in body, mind and spirit -- so that the process can be a joyful one. When I was young, with a houseful of children, pets, and friends, my energy seemed limitless, and my days were full. I was immersed in life, and pushed myself to the limit in everything that I did. The first time I really noticed a decrease in my energy level was when my second son graduated from high school when I was forty-six. Of course, I planned a large graduation party, and all came out well, except I realized that I was much more exhausted after this party than I had been after his brother's graduation four years before. Could it be my age?? </em><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">The aging process had begun to catch up with me. In many ways, the mindset of our baby-boom generation led us to unrealistic expectations of aging. We heartily believed that with the proper diet, exercise, and mental stimulation, we would barely notice a change as we hurtled along into middle age and finally reached the "elderly" status. We didn't realize that there is also a genetic component to aging. My family was comprised of both those who died much too young, and those who lived into their 80's and early 90's. I have no idea whose aging genes I carry, so I tend to cherish every day that I have. One of my friends has parents who were active and quick-minded well into their 90's. I also have friends my age who suffer from disabling diseases. We have no idea what our own aging process will be; we do, however, have the power to look for the smallest of pleasures each day which will enhance the lives we have been given.</span></em><br />
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<em>As we reach our sixties and beyond, there is a freedom to finally be ourselves and be content within our own skin. We can retire, keep working, work part-time, volunteer, take care of our grandchildren, travel; the possibilities are endless. I have chosen to care for my grandchildren during the day, and this has blessed me with deep emotional rewards. Once they are all in school, I would like to pursue some of my hobbies with more serious intent -- genealogy, gardening, writing, photography. Social media has allowed many of us to reconnect with friends from long ago. How wonderful it is to talk to people I haven't seen in years -- to reminisce and renew friendships across the miles with the click of a few computer keys. </em><br />
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<em>Some of us are in great physical shape and others are not. Some of us are financially comfortable and others live in poverty. Whatever our circumstances, though, we can find joy in our everyday lives. We are free to live our lives as we choose. We can spend time with people we enjoy -- who bring laughter and understanding to our lives. My energy level decreases a little each year, and I struggle on my limited income, but I find pleasure in my much-loved old house, my flowers and herbs, my precious birds and little creatures who inhabit my yard and eat peacefully together at the bird feeder. I have a world of books from which to choose at the local library. I live in a wonderful little neighborhood where we all watch over each other -- we have even begun a new generation here with precious little twins who live in the house where their great-grandfather once lived. </em><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">From early childhood writing was my joy and my solace. As I moved through life, I cherished those spare moments when I could grab a pen and any bit of paper to capture an inspiration or memory. Some of my happiest moments, as well as my moments of sorrow are recorded on old notebook paper. With the advent of the internet and personal blogs, I have found a new outlet for these ponderings which used to remain tucked away in notebooks and drawers. In my older years, I have made an attempt to organize these various pieces of my life so that they are more accessible -- how many memories I have tucked away. From time to time, I will share one of my old musings on this blog. The one which follows here was written in the late 1990's.</span></em><br />
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<em>"I pull the fragrant loaves of bread from the oven, marveling at their perfect form -- loaves that were a soft dough just two hours ago. I stir the simmering soup on the stove, breathing in the musky steam that rises from the pan. I ladle some soup into a smaller kettle, place this in a box, crumpling newspapers around the kettle, secure the cover, and place a still warm loaf of bread on top. As my husband delivers the box to his ill mother, I imagine her spirits lifting slightly as she heats the soup and breaks off a piece of warm bread, feeling my love for her in the warmth of the food on this blustery spring evening.</em><br />
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<em>There is a light snow falling this afternoon as I sit in quiet contemplation of the year past and the year ahead of us. It has never been my custom to make New Year's resolutions, but this year I have decided to make one resolution. I have decided to be certain to really listen to people -- to listen to the meaning behind their words, to give them time to finish their sentences before I interject my own response, and, most importantly, to listen to their opinions and beliefs with an open mind and a desire to increase my own understanding of the issues that face our society today.</em></div>
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<em>I think one of the biggest problems we face is the fact that we don't really listen. We have our own strong opinions and when someone's beliefs differ from ours, we automatically shift into defense mode -- trying, in our own minds, to validate our opinions, and often arguing these opinions before we have even listened to their side of the conversation. This is glaringly obvious on social media today. A friend posts something that they believe to be true; then a friend who disagrees quickly posts a nasty comment, and soon there is a string of comments with each person vehemently defending his own beliefs; very seldom does anything remotely constructive result from these interactions, and often hard feelings linger between friends.</em></div>
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<em>We all see things differently, depending on our personal experiences throughout our lives. The serious issues facing our nation and our world today require people who listen to each other. There is a middle ground to be found, if people will just take the time to consider all of the facets of an issue, and sort through them with a willingness to understand and compromise for the common good.</em></div>
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<em>The weeks before Christmas were filled with moments to treasure. We enjoyed a quiet dinner with my brother-in-law one Sunday; the next weekend I attended a local holiday house tour with a good friend. The houses were lovely old Victorians, and I was captivated by the warmth of the rich, old wood floors, mouldings and stairways, the nooks and crannies, and the decorations placed so carefully throughout the homes. We returned to my own old house for a light supper of beef vegetable soup and bread -- a peaceful end to our special day.</em></div>
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<em>Our hearts always carry happiness and sadness simultaneously. For every terrible event that occurs, there is always some other blessing. We must always look for the blessings. As we look back at our Christmas season, we should remember the good times, rather than dwell on the times that somehow diminished our celebration. And, unfortunately, in life there is certainly going to be a Christmas that will always be remembered with pain and sorrow. It is during those times that we need to focus on the true meaning of Christmas -- we are celebrating the birth of our Savior. His birth alone is blessing enough!!</em></div>
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">Each morning I rise from my bed slowly, leaving its warm softness for the joint-stiffening cold of my bedroom. I pull on the pair of comfortable old slacks I left lying across the chair the night before, slip into socks and slippers, and gather my soft, warm robe around me. I pick up my little dog and we make our way slowly down the stairs. I turn on one light in the living room, the soffit lighting in the kitchen, switch on the coffee, and take the dog outside. This time of year I am greeted with cold stillness -- usually it is still dark, with a deep blue sky and starlight. Some mornings hues of pale pink wash the eastern sky through the trees. There is a beauty at dawn no matter what time of year it is -- and it was especially lovely after our Thanksgiving snowfall this year. By the time I bring the dog back in, the aroma of coffee fills the kitchen, and I pour a huge mug, warming my hands on it as my day begins.</span></em><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">Our rituals change as our lives change. As a teenager I looked forward each day to a brief hour in the evening lying in our hammock, which was strung between two old pine trees, overlooking an empty field. Nothing helped soothe my teenage angst more than this time swinging gently in the hammock, surrounded by the silence of the field beside me -- time away from the competitive world of adolescence, where I could think my own thoughts, try to understand how and why I was somehow inclined to march to a different drummer, and to shed silent tears for the everyday heartbreaks of my life. And then, suddenly, a house was being built in that empty field, and my own private place disappeared into memory. My evening ritual was no more. </span></em></div>
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">The mystery of rituals is that some people do not cherish them at all. They may enjoy the traditions of holidays, and vacations and family memories, but they do not recognize the everyday rituals that can bring so much peace and enjoyment to our lives. To some, a long walk after dinner may be purely for exercise; to the fortunate ones, it is a ritual which they look forward to -- time to linger, to look, to listen, to enjoy the sights and sounds of their neighborhoods. A trip to the bookstore, with its shelves of new books to explore is just a shopping trip to some; to others, it is a quiet ritual of searching the titles, choosing a book from the shelf, holding it in their hands -- savoring the feel and scent of the pages, choosing random sentences to read, deciding that "this is the one," and taking it to the counter with much anticipation of settling into a chair at home later for a cozy read.</span></em></div>
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<em>Before I go to bed each night, I take my journal in hand and slowly choose the words that describe the day that has passed. How I love those quiet moments when I can sift through the events of the day and make some sense of them as I write. I finish writing, put down the book, place water and coffee into the pot for morning, slowly walk from</em> <em><span style="font-family: inherit;">room to room, closing curtains, turning off lights, and then walk upstairs to my bed, my sleepy old body anxious to snuggle under the quilts in the darkness. A ritual I treasure each night.</span></em></div>
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<em>There have been times when I have waited anxiously for the results of medical tests, or worried about an illness. I have worried about dying and leaving my children and grandchildren. As I thought about the reality of death, I realized that it is not the trips I would like to take, or the parties I would like to attend, or the big moments I will miss that haunt me; it is the little daily rituals that I would miss the most -- those tiny little blessings that make each day, each month, and each year a joy to which I look forward. How sad for those who do not recognize the little joys that exist in everyday living. The blessing of rituals is indeed a gift to those of us who cherish them. </em></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-9907026714081471722014-11-08T09:36:00.001-05:002014-11-08T09:36:04.660-05:00A Quality of Life Rant<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em>For the most part, I try to avoid the political and the divisive in my blog posts. Social media abounds with political nastiness, and I don't like to spread negativity; I much prefer offering my readers a taste of kindness, inspiration, and a sprinkle of laughter. That said, this post will be different. Maybe it is because the morning is gloomy, or because the election results worry me, or simply because the past few weeks have been filled with sadness and stress for those that I love. But I am worried about the future. </em><br />
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<em>I must admit I've always been a bit "out of step" with the world. I can't quite understand greed and competition. I look at a person's heart, rather than his race, religion, or status. I have always believed in the old adage, "the more the merrier", be it welcoming people to a gathering at my house, or opening our country to immigrants who want to come here and live productive lives. I am a lifelong "tree hugger" -- believing deeply that we should cherish and protect our beautiful natural world. And I believe in taking care of each other -- helping to raise others up, rather than tearing them down.</em><br />
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<em>I guess this is why the election results this week concern me. My fear is that the Republicans, with their self-proclaimed "mandate" will not "play well" with the Democrats. I believe that these early attempts to forge a better working relationship between the two parties will fail, and we will see another two years of fighting, and name-calling and gridlock. I believe that too many politicians from both parties win elections because of the powerful corporations which pour money into their campaign coffers; and then, they are beholden (an old-fashioned word, but it seems to fit) to shape their political decisions based on what is best for these supporters, rather than what is best for our citizens and their quality of life. </em><br />
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<em>The quality of life in our country, in my opinion, has declined vastly in the past two or three decades. For the most part, mothers no longer have the "choice" between working and staying at home with their children. The cost of housing, transportation, insurances, clothing and food necessitate that most mothers work. Our children are bombarded with violent video games, TV shows and movies. They must attend preschool, or they will already be far behind their fellow kindergartners. The pressure to achieve and to compete and to participate in numerous organized activities is intense. High school students already realize that they must choose careers with higher income over those that would offer personal satisfaction. </em><em>Employees are at the mercy of greedy employers, who can cut benefits, pay low wages, and fire at will, because there is always some other soul out there looking for a job. </em><br />
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<em>Individual citizens no longer have the power they once had. We cannot begin to "fight City Hall" anymore, nor big banks, insurance companies, Wall Street. If we stand up for what we believe is right, more often than not, we get knocked back into "our places" swiftly and unequivocably by these higher powers.</em><br />
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<em>And, I can't finish without mentioning my worries for our environment. I will never understand why CEO's are so willing to pollute the earth that their own grandchildren will inherit one day. Whether or not you believe fossil fuels are causing climate change, the climate is changing drastically. Why take a chance with this beautiful world of ours. Why not strive for alternatives to fossil fuels. Why rush headlong into fracking when we don't know for sure if it could pollute our water supplies down the road. Been there - done that! Just look at the lakes and rivers we have already destroyed with PCB's and other chemicals from previous days. It seems like greed trumps common sense every time!</em><br />
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<em>Yes, I am still out of step, I guess. I don't understand the greed for money and power; I do not have the spirit of a fighter. I do know that this world would be a better place if more people were a bit out of step, too -- if they could only step off this treadmill that is life today -- but they can't. They must compete and struggle to support themselves and their families. They must play by the ridiculous rules of today's world.</em><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">This was the year that I told everyone I would have so much more free time. Emma would be in preschool three mornings a week, and I would have all of those free hours to spend as I chose -- a cup of coffee with a friend, shopping at my leisure, writing blog posts. But then, September was here and reality set in. The first two months of school have been crazy. Each time I think a week is going to be normal, something new pops up. There is a half day or a field trip or some other change in our daily routine. Routine just doesn't happen.</span></em></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><em>Though I am still waiting for those quiet mornings, there have been breathtakingly beautiful moments midst the chaos. One Saturday morning Alivia, her Mom and I went raspberry picking at a local farm. How peaceful it is to drive down a country road in the quiet of early morning, passing fields of cows, and then to pick berries as sheep graze in a nearby pasture. Raspberries from the vine are delectable, and picking them with my granddaughter's happy chatter as background music is a joy.</em></span><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">The half days, which were teacher conference days, were more hectic than usual, as we picked Alivia up from her school, greeted Luke at the bus stop, and then headed to the preschool to pick up Emma. They were all so happy to be together for the afternoons, though. One afternoon Luke worked with his Grampy on a toolbox they are building together. Another afternoon we had our traditional "Family Lunch" with Luke & Emma's other grandmother and their little cousin. Feeding four excited and rowdy little ones lunch and getting them settled in the playroom left Nana and me anxious to settle into the softness of the sofa with our cups of tea at hand.</span></em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-5072551386269680642014-10-18T09:50:00.000-04:002014-10-18T09:50:31.825-04:00Making it Through Anxious Times<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">We live in a time of anxiety and stress. Since the early 2000's we have experienced long-term war in the Middle East, paralyzing political divisiveness that continues to increase with each year, a slow recovery from a recession which still impacts the lives of many, the ongoing fear of terrorist attacks, mass shootings in our schools and malls, recent strife in Ukraine, and now, the deadly Ebola virus which has killed thousands in Africa and has reached our own shores.</span></em><br />
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<em>I believe that technology today increases our anxiety over the issues that face us. There are 24-hour news broadcasts always looking for something new to report, often without completely checking the facts before passing along the news. Bloggers on the internet can write anything they choose, and there are those who believe anything they read, regardless of the source.</em> <em>It can be very difficult to distinguish between a blog written by someone knowledgeable about his subject and a blog written by someone who is misinformed. Journalism was once an honorable profession, but today it seems to be more important to be "first" with a story than to be accurate. Rumors fly and people usually tend to believe the worst of what they hear.</em><br />
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<em>Which brings me to our latest worry -- the Ebola virus -- and I am a terrible worrier. Knowing that this virus is now in our country makes me very uneasy. Hearing of the mistakes made already in these first three cases is disheartening. But, unfortunately, I think in their efforts to reassure us, our government and health officials made us believe that we were in very little danger because we were prepared. However, as we can now see, human error, lack of training, and sloppy adherence to procedure is always possible. The news and the internet teeter between false reassurances and terrifying predictions. W</em><em>e must not focus on the alarming news before we know all the facts. Be vigilant and informed, but try to discern between serious news and sensationalism.</em><br />
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">As I slowly opened my eyes this morning I was greeted by the sound of gentle raindrops on the roof outside my bedroom window. Not only did I have an entire Saturday to myself with no obligations, a chilly rain was falling this first weekend in October. I rose slowly from bed, turned on the coffee, took the dog for her soggy morning walk, and came back in to enjoy a mug of the hot beverage. This rain was a soothing one -- no howling winds and loud downpours, just steady, gentle, cold rain. It felt like a gift, as the past couple of months have been stressful ones.</span></em><br />
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<em>There have been worrisome medical issues in my family, sad times and serious illnesses for some of my friends, and just last week, the sudden death of a long-time, much-loved friend. The back-to-school schedules for my grandchildren have been hectic; the war and strife in our world are painful to comprehend, and I have been physically and emotionally exhausted from all of these worries and sorrows. I very much needed a peaceful day to putter in the house. </em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-85885910478433179462014-09-14T13:52:00.001-04:002014-09-14T23:05:56.089-04:00A Return to the Waltons<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">Some of my best blog ideas often come from everyday conversations. Last week at the bus stop, I was talking to one of my grandson's neighbors. She asked me if I lived with my son and daughter-in-law. She and her husband came to the U.S. from India several years ago, and they were astonished that families lived separately from grandparents in this country. She said the custom in India is that after marriage, the wife moves into her husband's home and their children are raised in that home. As we talked, I realized how much life has changed in our own country through the years. When I was growing up, my grandparents lived with us, as was the case with many grandparents. Looking back through history, it seems the majority of families lived together or in close proximity; many of our historic homes have additions from different time periods because as the family expanded, new rooms were necessary. In India, this must still be the custom, with close family bonds between the generations, aunts, uncles and cousins.</span></em></div>
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<em>And, I thought, what a secure life this must be for children. There is always someone at hand who is related to them, and cares deeply for them. I know I was never left with a babysitter because my grandmother was always right there with me when my parents went out. In modern society, children tend to move out of their parents' home as soon as they are financially independent; they very seldom live with their parents once they have children of their own, unless there are financial difficulties. And this is life the way we know it. </em></div>
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<em>We were raised to be independent, and now, as grandparents, we are encouraged to be independent, active, and involved in the community at large. Many grandparents are separated by long distances from their children and grandchildren. We have come to accept this as the norm. I value my independence, and would never choose to live with one of my children. I dedicate many hours of each day to the care and guidance of my three little grandchildren, but I return home to my own quiet house in the evening.</em></div>
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<em>Fortunately for the grandchildren of today, many grandparents are taking on the role of caregiver while parents work. How much better for a child to be with a grandparent all day, with the security of unconditional love, than with a stranger, no matter how kind and loving he or she may be. How wonderful for grandparents to share special everyday moments with these children of their children.</em></div>
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<em>And, I wonder, was life better when families were closer in proximity or shared a family home? I'm sure there were arguments and issues to smooth over, but were they comforted by knowing the financial burdens of running a home did not fall on two parents alone? Were the children happier and more secure being surrounded by loved ones? Did shared labor make the chores less tedious and time consuming? Were there always extra hands available to rock a teething baby, bathe a tired toddler, practice spelling words? Was it easier to care for the elderly and the disabled when they were living under the same roof, and there were many family members to share the burden of their care each day?</em></div>
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<em>I think maybe those were better times; however, I'm not certain that anyone would choose to go back to that way of life now. Our generation raised our children to be independent and to follow their own paths, and they are happy with homes of their own, and the privacy to conduct their family lives the way they choose. I am happy to take care of my grandchildren during the day, but still feel the need for quiet evenings to rest and enjoy my own pursuits.</em></div>
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">Yesterday morning I was roused from sleep by quiet little taps and flutters outside my window. The sparrows were on the porch roof, pulling seeds from the spent Rose of Sharon blossoms and cracking them open to eat. Suddenly, the flowers that were so beautiful and perfect just short days ago are wilting and going to seed.</span></em></div>
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<em>Summer has seemed short here in the Northeast this year. The long, cold winter seemed to linger much too long, and the warmth of summer was slow to arrive. Due to changes in the school calendar last year, school was in session until the very last week in June, and reopens the first week in September, leaving us with an abbreviated summer vacation. For those who love sunshine, heat and humidity, it was a disappointing time -- for me, the cooler temperatures were a blessing.</em><br />
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<em>It was a summer of contradictions for me -- both very good times and very bad. In July one of my daughter's best friends invited us to her lovely wedding. How beautiful it was; how beautiful she was, and how much fun I had catching up with the lovely young women who once spent so much time with us, chattering about boys and activities. It seems just a heartbeat ago that my house was filled with their laughter. This was definitely one of the good times.</em><br />
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<em>Another highlight was the engagement of my son's best friend to his long-time girlfriend. I am so excited for both of them, and looking forward to their wedding next year.</em><br />
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<em>But, then there was the sadness -- hearing of the death of an old friend. She was in her 90's, and had been living in Texas for ten years, but we had kept in touch until recent months. Her thoughtful nieces phoned all of her friends from far away, so we could say our last good-byes to her as she lay dying. I will always be grateful to them for giving me this one last chance to tell her how much she meant to me.</em><br />
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<em>Another long-time friend is fighting a battle with an aggressive form of cancer -- she was diagnosed early in the summer, and has been on my mind and in my prayers constantly. She is bravely holding on for as much time as possible to spend with her family. Her illness has felt like a cloud over my summer.</em><br />
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<em>The news has been a constant source of dismay -- with the horrors of Ukraine, Iraq, Israel and Palestine, the missing airliner, the airliner shot down, the ongoing divisiveness and hatred in our own country, the increasingly powerful changes in climate. We have come to the point where it seems almost impossible for people to compromise -- where do we go from here? What will life be like for my precious grandchildren? </em><br />
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<em>And, there were also wonderful times with friends -- between my babysitting, and my own medical issues, I didn't have as much time as I had planned to spend with friends, but the wonderful memories of coffee dates, lunches, long talks, and precious time together have been a highlight of my summer. There are still several people I want to see, but the days of summer are almost past, and I will probably have to put off some of these visits until school holidays. </em><br />
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<em>If anything, this summer has taught me to treasure each moment I can spend with friends and family, from family gatherings, to phone calls, to Facebook conversations. I am a person who loves solitude -- the deep quiet of late summer evenings, working silently in my garden, reading, writing -- and it would be easy to forget how important it is to make time to tend as lovingly to friendships. </em><br />
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<em>This is the final full week of summer vacation. Next week, school begins again, and my life will once more be filled with schedules and the needs of my little grandchildren. I am thankful for this summer, with both its good times and sorrowful times. I have spent this Sunday in quiet pursuits -- tending my garden, my birds, and my house. I bought three small pots of chrysanthemums to place on my front porch steps -- how lovely they will look when they are in their full autumn bloom. While I do wish summer had not passed so quickly, I find myself looking forward to autumn -- to the colorful trees, the scent of baking apples and pumpkin pie, the comfort of a much-worn sweater. Ahhh - bittersweet August!!</em><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09491132326048774349noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3546594245341330768.post-57500546861576784722014-07-27T15:54:00.000-04:002014-07-27T15:54:14.763-04:00The Joy of Keeping a Journal <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em><span style="font-family: inherit;">As I was browsing Facebook this morning, one of my friends shared a post about journaling, which sparked several comments, and was particularly interesting to me -- an obsessive writer. My evening is not complete until I have spent a few quiet moments with my journal in hand, mulling over my day and writing down what seems to me to have been of some importance. </span></em><br />
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<em>When my children were young, and quiet time was rare, I did not have the luxury to keep a formal journal. Money was tight, so my writings and musings were sporadically entered into loose leaf notebooks. As I look through the many notebooks and pieces of paper, I realize that I did indeed find the time to write, but it was not a part of my daily routine. How I wish I had chronicled the dailiness of raising children, and recorded the sweet moments of their lives in an orderly fashion. There is so much I don't remember about those years.</em><br />
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<em>In the late 1980's, when the demands of my children began to lessen, I started gardening and kept looseleaf notebooks filled with diagrams and information on what I had planted and how well things grew. Sprinkled throughout these pages were paragraphs about the things that were happening in our lives at the time -- the illness and death of my father, the family parties, etc. I continue with this garden journal today, but now the journal is a hardbound book, and my entries are not as technical they once were. </em> <em>I write more about the joy of gardening and the seasonal changes each year.</em><br />
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<em>In 2001, the death of my mother and the heart wrenching tragedy of 9/11, sent me to my journals with a new determination. I finally bought hard-bound journals and began to spend some quiet time each day writing whatever seemed important or touched my heart. Soon, I was pouring out my soul to these journals. Not only is it cathartic to be able to look back on each day and sort out my feelings and worries, it also provides a history of sorts that I refer back to often. Time passes so quickly; it is difficult to remember when some major event happened in our lives. All I have to do is check my journal. I keep them in an antique trunk, bound together by year; occasionally, I will take out a journal from several years ago and read it in its entirety. </em><br />
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<em>Both of my sons were married in the same year, and I started a special journal when they became engaged. Now all of the lovely memories of those days are there waiting for me whenever I want to relive those happy times. </em><em>I also have a journal for each of my grandchildren. I usually make an entry every few months, to record the special memories of my close relationship with them.</em><br />
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<em>My daily time with my journal is very important to me. So many lovely memories are held safely between the covers of these books, as well as times of heartbreak and sorrow. This time alone, with pen in hand, offers me the chance to write down my feelings and put things into perspective. </em><br />
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<em>And so, I keep my own journals safely in their trunk. Who knows what routes they may travel; years from now, a great-great grandchild may read one of them and gain insight into what life was like in my times, from my perspective. My life has been an "ordinary" one, with no great accomplishments, but sometimes what we yearn to know about our ancestors is what their ordinary days were like. Who knows, they may end up being thrown in the trash someday after I am gone and never passed on, but keeping these journals has been both a joy and a balm to my soul -- a lovely way to end each day.</em><br />
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